"I am sure you’re all tired of me complaining about Mr. Medina by now"... what! It's like you don't know me at all. If you do watch the documentary, you will discover that one revered drag institution is "The House of Pendarvis."
I think he's the best match she ever had. We can discuss this more when you get to those episodes. Sad that Theresa's game effort to get into the show has ended before the Digger episodes. I say this a lot to whoever will listen, but Chris Eigeman followed me on Twitter, back before I quit social media like the biggest hero this world has ever seen.
First of all, justice for Skippy! That poor hamster! Fictional rodent’s well-being aside, the story primes us for the “commitment issues” that have seemingly plagued Lorelai her entire life. She can’t even face the normal tasks and challenges of being a pet owner, how could she possibly make it work with a partner! It also implies that the only reason Rory has survived as a relatively well adjusted child is because she is an extension of Lorelai herself, and Lorelai only truly has time and energy for Lorelai’s needs. She is so focused on carving out her unique identity in the world, that selfishness and shortsightedness have become the norm. She seems unwilling to fully consider the long term consequences of her actions, from the slow torture of a family pet, to the complex entanglement that comes from dating your daughter’s teacher.
During this episode, I shook my head and made a lot of guttural “ughhh” noises, for a lot of the reasons you discussed. On top of all that, Lorelai instigates a schoolgirl/ teacher roleplay at Max’s house, which in the context of their situation is soo icky!
Maybe Paris’ ears are burning, since everyone is gossiping about her family? One of the rumors being speculation on her mom having back surgery since “it doesn’t match the front anymore” (??). I like Paris and Rory’s awkward but earnest inching towards friendship. Despite their negative interactions, it has always been an honest relationship.
In conclusion, “He’s just a man, Lorelai.” -Emily Gilmore
Honestly Lorelei grew up in a very controlling home, and essentially turned her back on her parents, her creature comforts, and help with her infant daughter because of it. She has an avoidant attachment style. Whenever she starts to get really into someone (around the 3 month mark), she panics and feels closed in and pushes them away. I think she's terrified of losing her independence.
Think about it, she breaks it off with Max the night after he is upset with her for
1. not thinking he should have a role in Rory's upbringing at all
2. not giving him a key to the house he's moving into.
While he's kind of a dick in that scene (we can cahat about that when we get there) he has some fair points. Signs both that Lorelei has some issues with committment and with relienquishing control. I think partnering is an extension of that. I also think this is the only plausible reason luke and Lorelei don't get together earlier. (That and maybe a little bit of timing stuff regarding each other's romantic relationships). These people are adults. For most of their friendship--like the entire time before the show starts-- they were not dating anyone seriously. Like, Lorelei didn't know about Luke's old flame Rachel, and Max is the first more serious partner she's had in ages and like, she's trying to dump him at the 3 month mark. Sure, there's Chris looming in the back of her mind, but at the end of this season we find out he has literally never come to Stars Hollow before (which like, what?).
I think Lorelei was afraid of losing interest. Luke and Sookie and her daughter are her only truly close friends. If you have an avoidant attachment style--how much room is there to date one of your only true friends? IDK.
Girl Paris is Burning is LEGEND. A really important piece of Black Queer Americana during the AIDs crisis. It's fun and heartbreaking. Watch it! Then watch Pose (the FX show based on the ballroom scene depicted in the documentary. Phenomenal). Also, Paris is Burning is referenced in literally every single ep of Rupauls Drag Race, so it's nice to get the references.
NO EFFing clue why the ep is called this. None at all. Makes no sense.
Lorelei and Max are absolute monsters in this episode. Like so so so bad. Max puts Rory in the middle by asking about her mom. Lorelei basically tries to get Rory to dump Max for her by returning the book. She then returns the book AT THE SCHOOL. And he like, calls her bluff and has a break upfight AT THE SCHOOL. Then they makeout AT THE SCHOOL. Like, what the eff.
Plus Lorelei says something SO UNCALLED FOR to Sookie. I do like that she unequivcably apologized without being called out. I don't remember that ever happening any other time in the show. But my god. She told her friend that she has no right to comment on her love life because Sookie hasn't had a date in years. That's seriously so effed up. And let's be real. Melissa Macarthy is a pretty lady, and this character is about to start the most successful, loving relationship on the show. But she's also a heavy lady whose best friend is being hit on and asked out everywhere she goes. And as the attractive yet chubby gal pal to many a thin statuesque beauty, it is a reality that there are different amounts of male attention going to one person over the other. It's just so uncool to basically for the thin, conventionally attractive Lorelei to throw in her heavy friend's face that she gets more dates than her. CHECK YOURSELF.
Compare this to Rory, who does a genuinely kind thing in extending an olive branch to her bully, Paris. I thought this scene was lovely. She grows a real backbone in telling Paris her actions were cruel, thoughtless, and that she knows how much it sucks to be gossiped about and then does that to other people. She points out that she hurt someone she likes in the process (Mr Medina) and that it was really shitty to let her desparation wound people she likes in the crossfire. Its so poignant i am even willing to overlook one of the WORST insults in the show ("maybe you should take dance lessons because the way you express yourself needs a little work"). This is a much more balanced confontation that the others we have seen (blowing up when she's late for a test or snapping at her grandma when she doesn't want to give a speech at her bday party). She makes great points with relative calm. But, better yet, when Paris recieves that message reasonably well, Rory sets aside recent events and a general pattern of bullying and offers Paris space to talk. That really is so kind. Not the mealy mouthed angel faced too polity version of Rory we often get, but the version of kindness that takes courage and empathy.
So pretty much, Rory comes out like a queen in this one and all the adults in her life are acting like children. Kind of a theme.
Oh and the scene at the end were Sookie asks out Jackson is so sweet. No notes. You can really see Melissa Macarthy's acting chops here--something seldom visible in this silly little role.
"I am sure you’re all tired of me complaining about Mr. Medina by now"... what! It's like you don't know me at all. If you do watch the documentary, you will discover that one revered drag institution is "The House of Pendarvis."
wait, House of Pendarvis?! Now I have to watch it!!!
Can’t wait to read your roast of Jason Stiles when the time comes
I love Digger!!!!! There, I said it.
lol oh no, I like Digger too! A highly controversial opinion, I'll admit!!!
I think he's the best match she ever had. We can discuss this more when you get to those episodes. Sad that Theresa's game effort to get into the show has ended before the Digger episodes. I say this a lot to whoever will listen, but Chris Eigeman followed me on Twitter, back before I quit social media like the biggest hero this world has ever seen.
First of all, justice for Skippy! That poor hamster! Fictional rodent’s well-being aside, the story primes us for the “commitment issues” that have seemingly plagued Lorelai her entire life. She can’t even face the normal tasks and challenges of being a pet owner, how could she possibly make it work with a partner! It also implies that the only reason Rory has survived as a relatively well adjusted child is because she is an extension of Lorelai herself, and Lorelai only truly has time and energy for Lorelai’s needs. She is so focused on carving out her unique identity in the world, that selfishness and shortsightedness have become the norm. She seems unwilling to fully consider the long term consequences of her actions, from the slow torture of a family pet, to the complex entanglement that comes from dating your daughter’s teacher.
During this episode, I shook my head and made a lot of guttural “ughhh” noises, for a lot of the reasons you discussed. On top of all that, Lorelai instigates a schoolgirl/ teacher roleplay at Max’s house, which in the context of their situation is soo icky!
Maybe Paris’ ears are burning, since everyone is gossiping about her family? One of the rumors being speculation on her mom having back surgery since “it doesn’t match the front anymore” (??). I like Paris and Rory’s awkward but earnest inching towards friendship. Despite their negative interactions, it has always been an honest relationship.
In conclusion, “He’s just a man, Lorelai.” -Emily Gilmore
"In conclusion, “He’s just a man, Lorelai.” -Emily Gilmore
OMG Emily was the QUEEN in this scene. So good.
"She is so focused on carving out her unique identity in the world, that selfishness and shortsightedness have become the norm"
This is so well put. A+
Re: Lorelei's commitment issues.
Honestly Lorelei grew up in a very controlling home, and essentially turned her back on her parents, her creature comforts, and help with her infant daughter because of it. She has an avoidant attachment style. Whenever she starts to get really into someone (around the 3 month mark), she panics and feels closed in and pushes them away. I think she's terrified of losing her independence.
Think about it, she breaks it off with Max the night after he is upset with her for
1. not thinking he should have a role in Rory's upbringing at all
2. not giving him a key to the house he's moving into.
While he's kind of a dick in that scene (we can cahat about that when we get there) he has some fair points. Signs both that Lorelei has some issues with committment and with relienquishing control. I think partnering is an extension of that. I also think this is the only plausible reason luke and Lorelei don't get together earlier. (That and maybe a little bit of timing stuff regarding each other's romantic relationships). These people are adults. For most of their friendship--like the entire time before the show starts-- they were not dating anyone seriously. Like, Lorelei didn't know about Luke's old flame Rachel, and Max is the first more serious partner she's had in ages and like, she's trying to dump him at the 3 month mark. Sure, there's Chris looming in the back of her mind, but at the end of this season we find out he has literally never come to Stars Hollow before (which like, what?).
I think Lorelei was afraid of losing interest. Luke and Sookie and her daughter are her only truly close friends. If you have an avoidant attachment style--how much room is there to date one of your only true friends? IDK.
Okay before we get into the Gilmores:
Girl Paris is Burning is LEGEND. A really important piece of Black Queer Americana during the AIDs crisis. It's fun and heartbreaking. Watch it! Then watch Pose (the FX show based on the ballroom scene depicted in the documentary. Phenomenal). Also, Paris is Burning is referenced in literally every single ep of Rupauls Drag Race, so it's nice to get the references.
NO EFFing clue why the ep is called this. None at all. Makes no sense.
Lorelei and Max are absolute monsters in this episode. Like so so so bad. Max puts Rory in the middle by asking about her mom. Lorelei basically tries to get Rory to dump Max for her by returning the book. She then returns the book AT THE SCHOOL. And he like, calls her bluff and has a break upfight AT THE SCHOOL. Then they makeout AT THE SCHOOL. Like, what the eff.
Plus Lorelei says something SO UNCALLED FOR to Sookie. I do like that she unequivcably apologized without being called out. I don't remember that ever happening any other time in the show. But my god. She told her friend that she has no right to comment on her love life because Sookie hasn't had a date in years. That's seriously so effed up. And let's be real. Melissa Macarthy is a pretty lady, and this character is about to start the most successful, loving relationship on the show. But she's also a heavy lady whose best friend is being hit on and asked out everywhere she goes. And as the attractive yet chubby gal pal to many a thin statuesque beauty, it is a reality that there are different amounts of male attention going to one person over the other. It's just so uncool to basically for the thin, conventionally attractive Lorelei to throw in her heavy friend's face that she gets more dates than her. CHECK YOURSELF.
Compare this to Rory, who does a genuinely kind thing in extending an olive branch to her bully, Paris. I thought this scene was lovely. She grows a real backbone in telling Paris her actions were cruel, thoughtless, and that she knows how much it sucks to be gossiped about and then does that to other people. She points out that she hurt someone she likes in the process (Mr Medina) and that it was really shitty to let her desparation wound people she likes in the crossfire. Its so poignant i am even willing to overlook one of the WORST insults in the show ("maybe you should take dance lessons because the way you express yourself needs a little work"). This is a much more balanced confontation that the others we have seen (blowing up when she's late for a test or snapping at her grandma when she doesn't want to give a speech at her bday party). She makes great points with relative calm. But, better yet, when Paris recieves that message reasonably well, Rory sets aside recent events and a general pattern of bullying and offers Paris space to talk. That really is so kind. Not the mealy mouthed angel faced too polity version of Rory we often get, but the version of kindness that takes courage and empathy.
So pretty much, Rory comes out like a queen in this one and all the adults in her life are acting like children. Kind of a theme.
Oh and the scene at the end were Sookie asks out Jackson is so sweet. No notes. You can really see Melissa Macarthy's acting chops here--something seldom visible in this silly little role.